My Wide Open Horizon

Full time wife and mother – Lydia didn’t realize it but forty years have slipped by so fast. Her two daughters have left home and country and formed their own families.  And now she faces a wide open horizon, will she dare dream again? 

First she had to recoup her sense of who she is.

At a young age of twenty-five, she left a promising career to focus exclusively on her family. It was a solitary path, one rarely chosen by many, but one she believed firmly in. Going without domestic help, she plunged headlong into motherhood. It would have been nice to have some domestic help but this would have given her nothing much to do. So foregoing this luxury, she discovered a new world of fulltime motherhood, reveled in it, single-handedly embraced its challenges, its demands and its joys.

Many could not understand this. A friend asked “don’t you get bored?” Lydia’s answer “This is learning one can never have any other way. To give birth, to see a new being emerge from you, to witness its fragility and at the same time its huge potential, and to know that you have been entrusted with a divine task to help shape the person this baby would ultimately become. What greater task is there?” “Every day is a learning experience. As this child grows, I grow alongside it.” Awesome! Amazing!

  

Finally, my BOOK is out! Yehey!

Lauriat - A Celebration of Family


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Once in a great while, a memoir like "Lauriat - A Celebration of Family" delivers a breath of fresh air because of the lightness of spirit with which it guides the reader through what many often feel are insignificant and ordinary mundane happenings in the life of a large, ordinary middle class family with nine children, a mother who loves to cook, and a father who believes that "tsia si hok" eating is prosperity. But it is in such ordinary things that real gems are hidden, if one knows how to look.

Set in the sixties and the seventies, amidst the colorful environs of downtown Avenida Rizal in Manila, the canvas of life revolves around the Ong family and weaves us through the scenes of school, wet market, kitchen, home, and neighborhood. Local colors are abundant which depict rich cultural tomes of home cooked meals, childhood games, street foods, household help, disciplinary practices, common sense remedies for ailments, and family traditions.

Enriched by the maxims of their Mama and Papa, Lydia and her siblings venture through their studies and their lives buoyed up by a firm resolve to reach for their dreams. Empowered by the support of home with its good food and good cheer, the children felt not pressure but a gentle yet firm push towards their various ends and goals. Training to be responsible early in life goes a long way towards shaping up the person one eventually becomes. This was instilled early on in the children of Mariano and Sion. The siblings, although vastly different in temperaments and aptitudes, never the less experience the cohesiveness of family and grow up with a strong sense of it.

Growing up has its ups and downs, the reader would be amused to witness the unique manner Aling Sion gives out her particular style of discipline. Even here, the humor that attends such sessions does not escape the onlooker. 

This book is unique in that it is not saddled by the heavy burden of ancestral history that haunts generations but prefers to look at family life events with neutral eyes and only later to view them within the vaster totality of life. Seen from this vantage point, the seemingly separate and independent series of events never fail to bring one back again and again to the core theme of purpose and goal which Mariano and Sion have managed to successfully bring across to all their children....that life carries hope and limitless possibilities.....and education is the key to all of it.

The much treasured recipes of Aling Sion are given a treatment like no other. And I think Mama would be pleased to share them with those who are interested. Lydia assures you that you would not be disappointed. And for those of you who are curious how we managed to eat chicken at all when we couldn't buy them already dressed, you would be happy to realize how lucky you all are now because the process was not easy at all. And you might not believe it if I tell you that school is enjoyable. But it is. Find out how our parents honed that enthusiasm in us, and in doing so, enabled us to excel in our studies. The lives of Mariano and Sion came to a full completion surrounded by family. As they lived, so they died....surrounded by family. This memoir celebrates them.

Blurb

Join Lydia as she time travels to the fifties and sixties when big families were the norm, living was simple and uncomplicated, marriages last, and people’s dreams do indeed come true.

Grab a chair and join her family as they partake of meals lovingly prepared and personally cooked by a mom who started married life totally ignorant of the basics of cooking and emerged one of the best cooks of her generation.

Walk the insides of a wet market in Manila’s Chinatown and be amazed at how people bought and sold produce without plastic. It can be done and they did it.

Learn basic kitchen skills in a time before the advent of dressed chickens and squeaky clean air-conditioned supermarkets.

Be among the privileged ones to get hold of Mama’s heirloom recipes and feel free to add them to your own repertoire of treasured dishes.

Marvel at the vast array of exquisite dishes in a Chinese lauriat that brings out the freshest and the finest a culinary master can offer, and how this family celebrated because of a father who believed that “tsia si hok” eating is prosperity.

Discover the timeless maxims that helped shape a whole generation and kept them grounded.

Take a front row seat to see how children of Lydia’s generation took to their studies and gather hints on how to raise children who enjoy going to school and turn out more than well.

And most of all see how food acts as the binding gel of childhood, camaraderie, community, a LAURIAT, truly A CELEBRATION OF FAMILY.   

About ME

Lydia Calasanz discovers that revisiting one’s past offers a privileged view unlike any other. One is at a vantage point where the seemingly mundane happenings in life literally explode to expose the hidden gifts they have been carrying all along. Being part of a big family carries its own advantage of discovering the sameness in diversity – the driving force and purpose that defines character – and the eyes with which to see these precious gems. This is her first book. Lydia has two daughters and lives with her husband in the State of Washington.